However, these traits are often repressed by those who raise males. A willingness to put his needs aside in the service of the family.The capacity to identify and share his feelings.

Referring Real, it is mentioned that wives have been looking for below capacities from a husband: The thoughts and actions that came from feminism will be able to create these conditions where “mutuality can be nurtured.”

What is the foundation of love? It is, of course, mutual partnership. Workaholism is seen by Zukav and Francis as “a flight from emotions, …a drug that is as effective as the most powerful anesthetic… a deep sleep… a self-induced trance that temporarily keeps painful emotions away from your awareness.” When asked by men who wanted to know what love is, Bell Hooks said that it is “a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect, and trust.” Relationships have always have one or two of above-mentioned aspects. But after listening more closely to men and their families, I have come to believe that violence is boyhood socialization.” To have a healthy self-esteem, men must practice integrity.įor many boys and men, perhaps “disconnection is masculinity.” Where do men detach from their feelings? In work. She said, “when I first began looking at gender issues, I believed that violence was a by-product of boyhood socialization. Bell Hooks has been looking at gender issues for years. Males would really need blueprints for change from feminism. This book argues that feminist work need to be more specific in addressing males. They can dissimulate, but they can never break patriarchy’s hold on their consciousness.” As Bell Hooks understood the impacts of popular culture on our lives, she also mentioned how “the vast majority of contemporary films send the message that males cannot escape the beast within. However, women are conditioned to be afraid to hear men voice their feelings. When it comes to boys, Bell Hooks saw that “most adults are more comfortable confronting a raging teenager than one who is overwhelmed by sorrow and cannot stop weeping.” Feminist activists that wants to end sexist oppression should be more than wiling to hear men when they are speaking their pain. This book explained why it is important for boys and men to embrace feminism.

“The notion that men who have lost touch with their mothers have lost touch with parts of themselves is a powerful one - powerful enough to provoke change.”

The will to change men